Whom You’re Seen With

Psychology Today on “mate copying,” among the many elements of attraction: To put it bluntly: The woman likes the taken guy more than the single guy. Mate copying has been documented countless times among non-human…

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“Courtship in Crisis” Published, Free Oct. 27-28 (Kindle)

Thomas Umstattd Jr.’s Courtship in Crisis is out now in paper and Kindle, and I recommend you read it whether you catch it free on Kindle today and tomorrow, or at the regular price.

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Sex Ed at Home?

Ever wonder how to start that lifelong conversation about relationships and sexuality? This little video was a hit at a recent mom’s conference.

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What’s Sex Got to Do with Dancing?

As a 25-year-old, one of my regrets was to reach that age not knowing how to dance. Oh, I could “move,” as we called it. Early ‘80s dancing was all about flinging parts of your…

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What I Learned About Sex from Kids’ Books

The Adventures of Robin Hood tells of the folk hero who steals from the rich and gives to the poor. The first Marxist, in other words. I never much liked him for that reason: his ends justified…

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Armed … Not Dangerous

What does carrying a weapon have to do with sex, gender, and relationships? I hinted at it with this metaphor in my book’s chapter “Masculine & Feminine, Male & Female”: Macho is to masculine as…

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The Only Sex Tip You’ll Ever Need

I know; it’s a clickbait title. And it worked, and I’m going to deliver. So, what’s the best sex? The Liberators, whose influence peaked in the ’70s, claimed they had the answer: Whatever turns you on. That…

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Why the Explicit Stuff?

Nobody cares about sanitized, theoretical discussions of sexuality. We want stories. We want graphical details. We want to know where our gut desires fit into the picture. Now, let me pause there. I’m teetering on…

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Building With Blocks

This morning, in the middle of his math lessons, my son announced that subtraction was easier than addition. He rattled off a few equations to show how simple it was to remove one number from another…

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A Palin Donnybrook?

All this tittering over the Palin family’s alleged fisticuffs at a neighbor’s house has me saying “meh.” I may be even a little envious, in fact. Years ago, I read some author’s recollection of his Brooklyn…

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